Although I am not under the illusion that the Blogspot community is raptly awaiting my posts every couple of years, I feel sentimental enough about this old blog to document here that I made myself a new little burrow over on Substack. It's called The Approach and at the moment it is seeded with a bunch of posts from here (some updated with video embeds of music I was talking about, a technology I'm honestly not sure existed when I started this) and exactly one new post concerning the best music of my pandemic. More to come as 2022 rolls on! I resolve it.
Poor Work Ethic
Pessimism of the intellect, optimism of the will!
01 January 2022
07 April 2020
John Prine, out of time
Oh no, John Prine. I’ve returned to him only occasionally over the past decade, but he's so deeply rooted in my history that the connection has required little tending in the normal span of time. His music operates somewhere outside of that.
It began like this: My mom got a sheaf of his CDs in my early teens, just before a summer of long car trips. They were the perfect thing to listen to while staring out the window at America lazing and struggling by, an increasingly rare point of alignment in taste between parent and surly, pretentious child. Having been raised on Garth and Shania, I was at that juncture headed down a dangerous path toward becoming someone who, in the words of Robbie Fulks, “liked every kind of music but country.”
Maybe Johnny Cash would’ve saved me from that fate in a year or so anyway, but Prine got there first, and it wasn’t because any aura of cool wafted from him. Cool was irrelevant to his storytelling—quick as a joke, heavy as a heart. There was a precision in those lines that hewed so close to the vernacular it sometimes took a beat to register that what had just hit you in the gut was art. There was a dogged curiosity about the full span of human experience, but especially the lives of the close-mouthed old.
A few years ago my friend Andrew texted me to talk about “Hello in There,” narrated by an old man with a son killed long ago by a war he can’t understand, whose recollection of brighter times, in its entirety, runs: “We had an apartment in the city. Me and Loretta liked living there.”
It occurred to me then to look up how old John Prine had been when he released this song, which appears on his self-titled debut album.
The answer was 25.
The same album includes “Angel from Montgomery,” and while Bonnie Raitt's version is more obviously beautiful, I love Prine's original for the weird power of in a young man in the country-rock scene of 1971 declaring without affectation, “I am an old woman, named after my mother.”
When I got home from that first road trip with John Prine I looked up the chords to “Paradise,” about the strip mining of a particular corner of Kentucky. There is almost nothing to it, musically—little enough that I felt confident not only learning it as a very new student of the guitar, but playing it at least once on the sidewalk outside the cool coffee shop where a poster of Johnny Cash held court on the other side of the wall. As a budding punk I was most taken by the middle verse (“They dug for their coal till the land was forsaken / Then they wrote it all down as the progress of man”) but now I think more of its power as an environmentalist anthem comes from lines like “the abandoned old prison down by Airdrie Hill where the air smelled like snakes.” It’s that sort of thing that puts the place in irreplaceable.
It began like this: My mom got a sheaf of his CDs in my early teens, just before a summer of long car trips. They were the perfect thing to listen to while staring out the window at America lazing and struggling by, an increasingly rare point of alignment in taste between parent and surly, pretentious child. Having been raised on Garth and Shania, I was at that juncture headed down a dangerous path toward becoming someone who, in the words of Robbie Fulks, “liked every kind of music but country.”
Maybe Johnny Cash would’ve saved me from that fate in a year or so anyway, but Prine got there first, and it wasn’t because any aura of cool wafted from him. Cool was irrelevant to his storytelling—quick as a joke, heavy as a heart. There was a precision in those lines that hewed so close to the vernacular it sometimes took a beat to register that what had just hit you in the gut was art. There was a dogged curiosity about the full span of human experience, but especially the lives of the close-mouthed old.
A few years ago my friend Andrew texted me to talk about “Hello in There,” narrated by an old man with a son killed long ago by a war he can’t understand, whose recollection of brighter times, in its entirety, runs: “We had an apartment in the city. Me and Loretta liked living there.”
It occurred to me then to look up how old John Prine had been when he released this song, which appears on his self-titled debut album.
The answer was 25.
The same album includes “Angel from Montgomery,” and while Bonnie Raitt's version is more obviously beautiful, I love Prine's original for the weird power of in a young man in the country-rock scene of 1971 declaring without affectation, “I am an old woman, named after my mother.”
When I got home from that first road trip with John Prine I looked up the chords to “Paradise,” about the strip mining of a particular corner of Kentucky. There is almost nothing to it, musically—little enough that I felt confident not only learning it as a very new student of the guitar, but playing it at least once on the sidewalk outside the cool coffee shop where a poster of Johnny Cash held court on the other side of the wall. As a budding punk I was most taken by the middle verse (“They dug for their coal till the land was forsaken / Then they wrote it all down as the progress of man”) but now I think more of its power as an environmentalist anthem comes from lines like “the abandoned old prison down by Airdrie Hill where the air smelled like snakes.” It’s that sort of thing that puts the place in irreplaceable.
01 January 2019
"The Apartment:" A Love Letter
H and I prepared to ring in the new year by catching an early showing of The Apartment, a movie I hoped I would still love a decade after seeing it the first time. Impossible to say at this distance what struck me anew and what I’d merely forgotten, but it had not gone flat. In some ways schematic and stagy, in other ways it’s a wondrously odd work, such that H’s immediate review was, “That was good. So weird.”
You could say The Apartment is a 1960 Billy Wilder film about an ambitious young insurance clerk (Jack Lemmon) in love with an elevator operator (Shirley MacLaine) and drawn into a farce by the executives who pressure him into lending his conveniently located bachelor pad to conduct their extramarital affairs. Or you could say it is a dark comedy about a young human woman (Shirley MacLaine) trapped in a world of cartoon characters, mostly malevolent (everyone else).
Fran Kubelik is not necessarily written as though she inhabits a deeper reality than the blowhards and airheads that populate the movie; you can imagine the role going to some more conventional actress and producing a very different effect within the same lines. After all, she is suffering for love of perhaps the worst of those blowhards (Fred MacMurray, displaying the same woodenness of visage and soul that Wilder put to good use 15 years earlier in Double Indemnity), for no reason one can imagine except that, of course, everyone in her world is a malevolent cartoon character—so why not, when one has grown so weary, finally sink into the arms of the tallest, handsomest such character in sight?
It’s MacLaine’s performance that compels this reading. Her performance, and the fact of her face, which we could look at endlessly, and fortunately the camera thinks so, too. She’s beautiful in precisely the way a distant coworker you develop a disproportionately intense crush on might be beautiful, which is to say it’s a face you almost never get to cherish on a screen—too real, too idiosyncratic. When she smiles fully she looks like an attractive Bugs Bunny, though here irony or longing usually tamps it down. One more readily remembers the scenes where she cries. Watch her fold around herself as MacMurray barely tries to comfort her, how she uses her posture to create a private space to hold her sorrow—patently the sorrow of one bad thing ending with nothing better, anywhere in the universe, to replace it.
And just as patently, Jack Lemmon’s Bud is not really an adequate replacement. I’d remembered him as rather soulful; he isn’t, really; only sad. He speaks with all the gravitas of a goldfish blowing bubbles, and the same helpless expression. Nearly all his thoughts and utterances are handed down intact from his environment: the corporate bureaucracy, the television, the free-floating misogyny. Every so often you feel Bud, or perhaps Lemmon, reaching for a little ironic distance between himself and what he’s parroting, but he can’t quite pull it off—can’t push himself free, because there is nowhere else to go. The glorious Hope Holiday, as a woman who picks him up in a bar by blowing straw wrappers at his face, describes her 5’2” convict husband as “like a little chihuahua,” which is about the same flavor of affection one might feel for Bud as well. But he is saved by his misfortune, which reaches him in the nick of time to prevent his becoming another smarmy bureaucrat.
The Apartment makes two in a strange genre of classic films set at Christmastime that hinge on suicidality—the first, of course, being It’s a Wonderful Life. When Bud rescues Fran from an overdose of sleeping pills on Christmas Eve, it’s possible to see him as some degraded version of the bumbling angel Clarence. But it is not really possible for Fran to awake and conclude that it’s a wonderful life. As much as Bud or anyone might care for her (along with the kindly neighbors who aid her revival—and by the way, note what a share of the film’s affection is reserved for these Jewish neighbors, cartoons, too, but good ones), whatever love’s on offer in this world is almost certainly not worth living for.
Yet she lives. The next film MacLaine made was The Children’s Hour, in which her character successfully dies for a doomed love, but it’s less moving than her survival here. Once I made a miscalculation: not a suicide attempt, but something that resembled it enough to enough of the people one must deal with in trying to manage one’s life that it made things very difficult for me for a while. What The Apartment gets right about this state is the embarrassment, the ugliness of needing others to help clean up the mess you’ve made. The scene in which Fran is revived is quite startlingly long and graphic. We hear her vomit, see her get injected and have coffee sloshed into her mouth. Again and again, the kindly doctor slaps her; back and forth for minutes on end she is marched half-conscious across the floor. And this is played neither for laughter nor for pathos. What is there is there: the bleak comedy of what happens after such a failure, the fear that it will happen again, and then the bleak comedy of Bud’s frantic measures to ensure that it will not. (Hide the razor blades, pocket the pills.)
As it happens, obtuse, milquetoast Bud turns out to be the perfect man for the job, for it turns out he once tried to kill himself, too. So he does exactly what one would hope for in Fran’s situation: helps concoct a cover story, distracts with gin rummy, improvises an endless pig-Italian aria while cooking a spaghetti dinner. One can finally begin to root for his pursuit of Fran at just about the very moment his fear for her makes him back off and coax her married lover to return.
Not many comedies dance this near to tragedy—certainly not so nimbly or with such respect for the abyss they skirt. Bud may not entirely deserve Fran Kubelik, but then again, who can claim that we in our world entirely deserve this film?
07 July 2016
Showing Up and Saying Names in the Twin Cities
There was a vigil for the latest in the list of
ordinary Black American names that had been propelled into horrible ubiquity by
the gunfire of an American police officer, so I put on black and biked into St.
Paul. By the time I arrived, the crowd outside the school where Philando
Castile had worked was drifting apart already. Rain was starting. There were more people inside the school, but organizers had spread word that the space
inside was to be held for those who had known him—who were feeling a particular
grief and anger and nausea instead of the general grief and anger and nausea
inhabiting bystanders like me—so I drifted around in front of the building a
little, wished I had brought flowers to lay upon the pile, and rode back west, pulling
the rainstorm along in my draft as Minneapolis still shone before me down the hill across
the Mississippi.
I was not entirely surprised the crowd was
dispersing; the vigil had started well over an hour before while I was wrapping
up work. I was not quite disappointed and not quite relieved to find it
dispersing, because I was not taking much of an interest in my own feelings
beyond the grief and anger and nausea that was not truly particular, that had
simply been brought into periodic focus by the predictable cycle of
news and state violence as it had been before and assuredly would be again. But
I was aware that I would have felt nearly as adrift even had there been a
larger crowd, and that I still would have had nothing to share but the bug
spray I'd thrown into my bag, anticipating the usual July evening conditions
outdoors.
It seems important to decenter most of one's own
feelings when one is a comfortable White person standing witness to the
everbearing horror of state-sponsored anti-Blackness in America. And yet the
attempt at bare rationality does not get you anywhere of use here, either. Bare
rationality (or at least its body double, self-interest) says: why go join the crowd, just to be one more
body drifting within it? Why go, when true change happens in patterns so vast
your body in comparison is only a Brownian particle bombarded by the storm of
larger forces?
Of course, that voice is not entirely rational either. The patterns need the particles to exist.
But it is a very easy voice to heed, when one is White and comfortable and, often
enough, anxious and depressed. It is so easy to be buffeted by these forces on
all sides such that you ultimately move nowhere, and someone has to look very
closely to notice that you are not placid but buzzing with dread.
In the winter it was Jamar Clark's name in the news
and on our lips. My romance with Minneapolis was still fresh; his slaying
shocked me in a way I couldn't have been shocked by police killings in Chicago.
I'd bought in, assumed that the bubble of safety I experienced as a citizen of
this gloriously progressive city must be general.
I didn't go to the protests for a long time, though
I did eventually march. I didn't manage to join the crowds at the Fourth
Precinct. Instead I glued myself to Facebook and watched it archive the
community that grew outside the station: music, bonfires, feasts compiled in
the biting cold.
I dithered; I deferred. What could I really
contribute? And if I could not really contribute, was I not just taking up
space? Was my desire to participate not probably, at root, as selfish as my
hunger as a child to be included in all the groups of friends who did not want
me in their ranks?
And then, more shootings. Armed and terrified white
supremacists who'd showed up to the Fourth with who knows what murky plans,
who'd been flushed out, fled, and fired in retreat. There was a sense of
something wrenching itself loose from the crawlspaces of the internet or the
collective mind, and intruding into the real world.
That wrested back some of the public attention that
had gone slack as the news cycle rolled on. But even once that attention drifted
away again, the occupiers of the Fourth kept showing up, day after day.
And I began to think about the possible aims of protest
beyond external change. It began to occur to me that protest might also be a
very effective means of care for self and community—that it could be, even in
the absence of confidence in its power to shift policy and opinion, a tool for
the preservation of the soul.*
I am not saying this is the best or only reason for
otherwise comfortable people to consider showing up and saying, out loud and in
public, "NO," when something occurs at the hands of the state that is
intolerable to the soul. But even in the midst of deep hopelessness it is a
motivating one, and that is notable, and I will seize it when I can.
___
* A concept which requires no real faith, in my
assessment, beyond the belief in the value of one's fellow humans and oneself that is,
after all, the only thing keeping any of us safe from all the weaponry the
world has for the taking. Beyond the general benefits of community contact and
staking public space for one's convictions, it seems to me that it is almost
always soul-preserving and humanity-preserving to convert the general into the
particular—which motion is in fact one of many brilliant tactics of the Black
Lives Matter movement. Through photos, through the voices of family, through
sheer repetition, the movement confronts the world with the particular being of
the irreplaceable person who has been stolen from it. Say his name. Say her
name. Say his name.
17 May 2015
Games for One Player: Rainstorm
Headache weather came and found me this weekend for the first time since I've moved to Minneapolis. This is a meteorological phenomenon and a psychoemotional one, usually common to my climate. The headache is not acute, but harder to shake for being so hazily dispersed. It disguises itself as a part of one's personality, as if it had always been there and planned to always be.
The novelty of a new city and the funny little life I've established in the apartment I've rented but not yet filled with my furniture or household—a sort of treehouse life, a child-hiding-in-the-backyard-bushes-with-things-pilfered-from-the-attic life—have kept my spirits high for weeks. But today, the last warm one before a predicted cold snap, some gray humidity crept in so gradually that I didn't think to pin my lethargy on the weather; indeed I often don't notice the connection until afterward.
One could argue that this attitude shirks responsibility anyhow, although it is true that low-pressure fronts have not only physical effects such as joint pain but demonstrable neurochemical ones: for one thing, they cause the adrenal gland to slow down its production of cortisone. For me, though, it's helpful when I can convince myself with a glance at the forecast that neither the world nor I are likely to be stuck in featureless gloom forever.
I couldn't muster up that argument this afternoon. I wasted hours of time on nothing in particular, supposing that two events I was planning to attend later would serve to make me feel I'd made some use of the day. Then both were canceled, and I chanced a reprieve in the drizzle to get out and try to save the evening and myself.
When I don't know what to do with myself on days like this—when I am profoundly bored not by the world but by the irritating fact that I am the filter through which it must pass—I try to put myself into a book, or into the sound of my guitar, and when those things don't help, I often go and put myself into a movie theater.
A movie in a theater can serve as an excellent reset button for the soul. You are dispersed into the big dark among a small crowd of people who ask nothing at all of you in exchange for their presence, their benign population of this soft realm. The relationship among you all is almost that of children at a slumber party, in the moments when everyone is finally too tired to talk but hasn't yet fallen asleep.
For two hours, your mind is overtaken by images and sounds for which you can in no way be held responsible. It is a nap without the risk of oversleep or bad dreams, provided you choose a film correctly; besides, it is more restorative and makes for better conversation when someone asks about your weekend. The movie needs to not be bad in an upsetting way—for me, that means no gratuitous bloodshed—but it does not especially need to be good. Its only job is to absorb whatever you would like to have leached out of you.
I saw While We're Young, Noah Baumbach's newest, and liked it as much as I was expecting to, which was a small to medium amount. (I would prefer he never make a film without Greta Gerwig, and I am by this point in life fairly bored in all mediums by male leads with grand and grandly frustrated artistic ambitions; this man always has a more practical and/or less artistic female partner, and I always wish that for once she were to be allowed to be the impractical but artistically pure one in this eternally recurring relationship.) But it didn't push the reset button for me; when the lights went up I still felt that I had done nothing with my day or with life, and I decided to walk the four miles back from the theater in the hopes of seeing more of the city and becoming tired enough to sleep.
The road was nearly suburban, a long straight ribbon laid over sedate hills. I felt the presence of lakes somewhere in the blocks beyond—the sky seems to sprawl and deepen over them—but wasn't sure how close. (I'd taken a bus down.) After a mile or two the idea of this walk started to seem as boring as any other idea I'd ever had, but I let a bus pass me by anyhow, planning to wring a little deliberate suffering out of the evening if nothing else.
Then my mood shifted and the rain started at once. It is sometimes delightful to realize one has been tricked by the brain, as much as a magician revealing his secret or a mystery author her red herring. Ah yes—of course it was the low front all along.
I would have been happy to be soaked through for a block, a little less so for two miles—but just as the drops approached maximum size and velocity, I spotted a house in the process of being built and tucked myself up under its unfinished porch.
This was an excellent way to spend 20 minutes: sitting in the soft dirt, watching rain hang in curtains from the raw eaves and form rivulets in the rocky soil underneath them. There was nothing definably useful in the pastime, but I felt I had very elegantly solved the problem of how to spend the day well—that somehow I could share in the credit for engineering such a neat match between my sudden need for shelter and this unbuilt house. I worried a little about someone sending a squad car by to investigate my trespassing, but I already tend to feel innately suspicious going on foot through leafy suburban neighborhoods, so my probable illegality didn't trouble me much.
When the rain let up a little I crept back out and headed on toward home. I played a little hide and seek with the storm clouds, tracking my speed and direction against theirs: of course, a cloud can move at the same speed as a person, if it wants. This realization seemed nearly wondrous to me.
Feeling favored by the heavens, I went out of my way a little to walk along the curve of Lake Calhoun before going home. The sky above it seemed to be expanding rapidly, pushed apart by novel cloud forms. The water and every manmade surface shone lavender.
When I reached the lip of the lake I was surprised to find that the soaking rain hadn't much impressed the earth: with every step my boots left white footprints, dry sand under the thinnest shell of wet.
The novelty of a new city and the funny little life I've established in the apartment I've rented but not yet filled with my furniture or household—a sort of treehouse life, a child-hiding-in-the-backyard-bushes-with-things-pilfered-from-the-attic life—have kept my spirits high for weeks. But today, the last warm one before a predicted cold snap, some gray humidity crept in so gradually that I didn't think to pin my lethargy on the weather; indeed I often don't notice the connection until afterward.
One could argue that this attitude shirks responsibility anyhow, although it is true that low-pressure fronts have not only physical effects such as joint pain but demonstrable neurochemical ones: for one thing, they cause the adrenal gland to slow down its production of cortisone. For me, though, it's helpful when I can convince myself with a glance at the forecast that neither the world nor I are likely to be stuck in featureless gloom forever.
I couldn't muster up that argument this afternoon. I wasted hours of time on nothing in particular, supposing that two events I was planning to attend later would serve to make me feel I'd made some use of the day. Then both were canceled, and I chanced a reprieve in the drizzle to get out and try to save the evening and myself.
When I don't know what to do with myself on days like this—when I am profoundly bored not by the world but by the irritating fact that I am the filter through which it must pass—I try to put myself into a book, or into the sound of my guitar, and when those things don't help, I often go and put myself into a movie theater.
A movie in a theater can serve as an excellent reset button for the soul. You are dispersed into the big dark among a small crowd of people who ask nothing at all of you in exchange for their presence, their benign population of this soft realm. The relationship among you all is almost that of children at a slumber party, in the moments when everyone is finally too tired to talk but hasn't yet fallen asleep.
For two hours, your mind is overtaken by images and sounds for which you can in no way be held responsible. It is a nap without the risk of oversleep or bad dreams, provided you choose a film correctly; besides, it is more restorative and makes for better conversation when someone asks about your weekend. The movie needs to not be bad in an upsetting way—for me, that means no gratuitous bloodshed—but it does not especially need to be good. Its only job is to absorb whatever you would like to have leached out of you.
I saw While We're Young, Noah Baumbach's newest, and liked it as much as I was expecting to, which was a small to medium amount. (I would prefer he never make a film without Greta Gerwig, and I am by this point in life fairly bored in all mediums by male leads with grand and grandly frustrated artistic ambitions; this man always has a more practical and/or less artistic female partner, and I always wish that for once she were to be allowed to be the impractical but artistically pure one in this eternally recurring relationship.) But it didn't push the reset button for me; when the lights went up I still felt that I had done nothing with my day or with life, and I decided to walk the four miles back from the theater in the hopes of seeing more of the city and becoming tired enough to sleep.
The road was nearly suburban, a long straight ribbon laid over sedate hills. I felt the presence of lakes somewhere in the blocks beyond—the sky seems to sprawl and deepen over them—but wasn't sure how close. (I'd taken a bus down.) After a mile or two the idea of this walk started to seem as boring as any other idea I'd ever had, but I let a bus pass me by anyhow, planning to wring a little deliberate suffering out of the evening if nothing else.
Then my mood shifted and the rain started at once. It is sometimes delightful to realize one has been tricked by the brain, as much as a magician revealing his secret or a mystery author her red herring. Ah yes—of course it was the low front all along.
I would have been happy to be soaked through for a block, a little less so for two miles—but just as the drops approached maximum size and velocity, I spotted a house in the process of being built and tucked myself up under its unfinished porch.
This was an excellent way to spend 20 minutes: sitting in the soft dirt, watching rain hang in curtains from the raw eaves and form rivulets in the rocky soil underneath them. There was nothing definably useful in the pastime, but I felt I had very elegantly solved the problem of how to spend the day well—that somehow I could share in the credit for engineering such a neat match between my sudden need for shelter and this unbuilt house. I worried a little about someone sending a squad car by to investigate my trespassing, but I already tend to feel innately suspicious going on foot through leafy suburban neighborhoods, so my probable illegality didn't trouble me much.
When the rain let up a little I crept back out and headed on toward home. I played a little hide and seek with the storm clouds, tracking my speed and direction against theirs: of course, a cloud can move at the same speed as a person, if it wants. This realization seemed nearly wondrous to me.
Feeling favored by the heavens, I went out of my way a little to walk along the curve of Lake Calhoun before going home. The sky above it seemed to be expanding rapidly, pushed apart by novel cloud forms. The water and every manmade surface shone lavender.
When I reached the lip of the lake I was surprised to find that the soaking rain hadn't much impressed the earth: with every step my boots left white footprints, dry sand under the thinnest shell of wet.
11 April 2015
Early Reports from Minneapolis
Note: Having
gotten the job mentioned in the below, I'm striking out for Minnesota
soon; I wrote these fragments late last month, on a visit.
1.
I'm sitting in the extraordinarily comfortable and
serene Hennepin County Library, Northeast Branch, after having spent the last
half hour or so of the morning rambling around the neighborhood, feeling as
alert and at large in the world as a ghost just returned after a dark
hiatus of unknown duration. I walked down little streets with little workingman's
frame houses crowding up to the sidewalk, very like a neighborhood adjacent to
the one I grew up in and would walk through on my way to poke around a massive
blackberry thicket I'd found and treasured. Silent houses, nearly empty streets,
a space for large sunlight and blessed ghosts.
I climbed up a railway embankment: someone had gone
to much trouble, perhaps recently, to carve stairsteps into the dirt slope,
but by the time I reached the top I could tell it was nothing official. I stood
on a small and obsolete trestle hemmed by stone railings in the classical
style, the rail bed entirely overgrown. It could have been a good place to sit
for a long time, but the air was brisk and nearby I spied a seeming shelter
built from bungee cords and deadwood. I heard no one rustling, but I erred on
the side of not disturbing someone's Saturday morning.
When I'd climbed back down, the train cars on the
adjacent trestle began to stir and pull away. This was a great surprise—such
unexpected animacy in the stilled world. It would, I thought, have been easy to
have tucked myself into a nook on the end of one of those cars. Ten or twelve years
ago I might've run back up and done it; the train still hadn't taken on much
speed by the time I turned my back.
If I am returned to the sunny earth, to this
anonymous body, from where am I returned? Myself, I guess, but from some
strange and artificially lit room I never inhabit quite by choice. This is a
way of saying I have been interviewing for jobs. It looks like I'll get one of
them, if nothing goes wrong, and I am truly pleased about it. But it has been
taxing to live so close to the surface of myself for so many weeks, holding my
thoughts and motions gingerly, packaging and repackaging the product of myself.
I've never felt it sounds right when I talk about myself. (Or: I've never felt
it sounds right when I talk.) I become so bored and disappointed with my
subject matter it takes a great hoisting of the will to not stop midsentence.
In these weeks it has been hard to get out of bed.
Harder than usual, I mean. Anxiety drapes itself over me, its fur prickling,
its weight immobilizing. This is of a different species from dread, because it also
pulses with a hope it daren't express with any larger gesture.
It lifts. But there are so many ways to be slowed
down. Even joy can do it, even the feeling that overtook me this morning on the
empty streets: the impulse to stop and stand and let the moment gather itself
around you. To see how big it will become, how many things might be collected
by its gravity into its blessed orbit. In fact I did stop two or three times. Among the things gathered in the glow were three tranquil dogs; a building for
a construction company called LaMere that was muraled with cherub-cheeked construction
men and trucks as plump as loaves of bread; some kind of factory built a long
time ago from mostly windows; and, waking me a bit, a line of cars whose wheels
played the segmented concrete road in washboard rhythm.
So much sun makes me drowsy. Although I've
been lingering in bed mornings, daylight's also been shaking me free of sleep
vigorously and early, whether I've slept enough or not. (I never have.) Then,
afternoons, it catches up with me and I'm flushed of all vitality for hours.
Before then, therefore: time to quit my sojourn in the library and head back into the day.
2.
A little Baptist church has placed a motto
on its sign: "Just Believe!"
It keeps me laughing all the way up the hill to Windom Park.
Today I am of a mood to delight in all the ways we lumbering magpies have chosen to decorate our homes.
One house I pass has—built from plaster, I
guess—what looks like an altar or creche greeting visitors beside the door.
Inside there is a tableau comprising two gape-mouthed Elmo dolls. One is riding
a horse from an entirely different toy universe.
At the next house the yard is decorated with
football-size stones, which someone has swabbed with purple paint and glitter
like Easter eggs.
At the next someone has made an abstract
sculpture of a tree by paring away all the living parts of a tree. Its remaining
limbs reach heavenward, in an attitude less beseeching than vengeful.
And so on.
Now I am sitting at the crest of a sunny
hill on a bench that, simply to please anyone who passes through, has been
hung on short chains so as to rock back and forth. Within my view lies a
toppled snowman on bare grass; his carrot nose is perfect. His many-fingered arms stretch out as if he has accomplished some pyrrhic victory; he
will melt away exulting.
I won't hear an unkind word about a world
like this, not today.
12 October 2014
More Hermits Per Capita
My relatives and I don't speak particularly often. This
is due mostly to who we are, and not what we have done to each other. I talk
most frequently to my mother and my grandmother, and of the two, because we are more alike
in cast of mind and habit, my grandmother and I talk a little less. We'd
welcome more conversation, but we are both not much for the telephone and are
each almost embarrassed to make the first move, now that we are both adults and
have become something like friends. It is as if too-frequent contact would ruin
this relation; it must be felt that we are choosing to speak freely out of
esteem for each other, uncoerced by blood.
"I think Chelsea was a little homesick last
weekend," says my grandmother of my youngest cousin, now in college.
"She kept texting me. She said she wasn't, but I think she was." My
grandmother loves this clingier cousin and is pleased to be needed, but she
reports this in a tone of gentle indulgence of a weakness. She cannot imagine
behaving this way. I, the firstborn, precedent-setting grandchild, would not
behave this way.
So we speak every few weeks, and in the
interim my grandmother travels: up and down the dirt roads and mown paths of my
grandparents' home in the woods, occasionally to the homes of her children in
the city and the suburbs. When we are reunited, she tells me the news of
the world.
1.
Among our family, my mother's boyfriend is a sore
thumb: short, twitchy, throbbing with talk.
"Every time he comes up here, he asks the same
stupid questions," my grandmother complains. "So you know he's never
listening." This man has lived his entire life in exurban Indiana. He has
never been made to understand the rhythms of the country or the city. Both scare
him in different ways, and so like a dog he barks ceaselessly when confronted
with either. He does not mean to be unfriendly.
"And oh, your uncle can't stand him," my
grandmother says. I hadn't considered it—only my grandmother, apparently, ever
sees more than a flash of light beneath
the heavy door of my uncle's inner life—but now that she says it, I know it could not be otherwise. "'The
guy never shuts up!'"
"No, we're really not a family of big
talkers," I agree.
In illustration, she tells me a brief anecdote: on vacation farther north in Michigan (they are always and only venturing
farther north, to ever more isolate lands), my grandmother, grandfather, uncle,
and cousin were eating together in a diner, in easy silence. Midway through the
meal, the diner's manager stopped by their table simply to remark:
"Wow! Wild crowd we got over here!"
2.
But if there is a wild card among them, it will
be my grandfather. He has buoyant moods. They seem to upset my grandmother in
the same way she is upset if he opens a second beer. He then becomes unknowable
to her; he has suddenly oriented his being towards a small crowd or a waitress,
whereas when things are in order he is turned only towards the habits he has
established in the lonely woods. He is not then turned towards her, exactly, and nor would she want him
to be—"Your grandfather is being funny lately—keeps grabbing me and telling
me that he loves me!" she remarked during one unsettling period of their
life together several years ago—but the pattern of his thoughts and motions is
the one she knows; it is open to her tracing, if she likes.
But here is the form his buoyancy often takes these
days, she tells me. For instance, a young woman has just sold my grandfather a power
tool and is explaining its lifetime warranty.
"Oh, well, you'll make money on that,
then!" my grandfather says. "I'm just an old man who'll be dead
within the year."
"He'll outlive us all," my grandmother
assures the woman. It has become her line in these situations, her part in the
vaudeville act, for—and I did not know this!—my grandfather has been broadcasting
his incipient demise to all and sundry since the two of them met.
He was 19, when they met.
(I have also recently learned that my father did
roughly the same thing when he and my mother were together—agonized over every
birthday, worried about his health. Ah, Dad! Another point of pointless sympathy
between us.)
I recall an incident from my childhood discussed in
low tones, the sort of thing one can never later drag out into the light:
my grandfather alone in a closed bedroom with one of his shotguns, a bang, a
hole, thankfully, in the wall.
My grandfather is a competent man when he cares to
be, and deliberate in his carelessness. The family was largely relieved when he
retired early from his job as a delivery driver: yes, he was sacrificing money,
but he was growing increasingly angry with his superiors and, they thought,
would likely have hit somebody if he'd continued to rattle and rage down the streets
much longer.
Even so, I doubt he ever took a sick day. Now in
his 70s, he wakes before dawn and tends a shrinking garden and keeps clear of
sticks a lawn around the house large enough to host a traveling circus. My
grandmother's body has been sliced by back pain and bad knees and foot problems
since I was young, but my grandfather really does seem on track to be a cursed
immortal: a spring in his step, a bad joke on his lips, and a dark glimmer in the
black of his eyes.
3.
We might not really understand other people, my
grandmother and I. We can pin down motives and watch subconscious currents nudge
the ones we love; we are not entirely oblivious. But as much as we attempt
sympathy, we cannot quite fathom why people misuse their lives as they do—why,
seeing the good path, they would head down the bad.
A dark thing has been happening down my grandparents' road.
Two things, really, but one is still happening and the other has removed itself
already. The latter concerns a walking buddy my grandmother had acquired from
the home directly south of theirs. In the country, you accept the friends proximity
grants you, and it takes some truly egregious misdeed to refuse their society. This
woman has now moved away, and my grandmother is a little glad, for she often had to
hear from the woman about her fights with her husband—the husband for whom
she'd abandoned her children, as their father was Mexican and her new husband
an ardent racist.
The woman confided that the fights often became
physical. My grandmother told her she must go: tell no one, but simply wait for
him to leave the house, take her things, and leave. The woman agreed this was
correct, but in the end did not leave; when the two of them moved, it was to a
trailer together in another part of the state.
"Well, things couldn't have been that bad, I
guess," my grandmother concludes. I demur, say that it could certainly have
been that bad, that it's hard to comprehend the strength of the ties that can
bind even the worst people together.
I am arguing for a kind of agnostic sympathy here,
where my grandmother prefers soft judgment, but we are both struck with the
same essential bafflement. My grandmother and I have always stood within
ourselves ready to walk away from the entangling ugliness of other people's
emotions. (It is mostly luck and our own aloofness that has ensured we've
rarely had to.) Why can others not do as we do?
The second dark event: there is a family at the end
of the road to whom my grandparents have been close since this couple bought
their land and started building their A-frame house and having babies. Theirs had
seemed to be a solid family, the younger kids still in school, the eldest son a
happy contractor in Alaska (where many rural Michiganders' idle dreams tend:
the well-paid work, the wildlife, the thrillingly low population density). This year, however, the husband was diagnosed with a
particularly hungry form of brain cancer. Prognosis was poor from the start,
and the man's condition began to deteriorate rapidly. Very soon, he lost the
use of his legs and resorted to a wheelchair—hard enough in a city with its
inconsistent sidewalks, but treacherous when you live in the woods.
Then another crisis occurred. When the man was most
recently hospitalized, his mother arranged for him to have a special visitor.
Her timing, however, was poor. The rest of the family learned in that hospital
room that the man had a mistress—had had her for two years, and was not about
to give her up now that the end of his life was so near.
The revelation split not just the family but the (very small) neighborhood
in two. The man said his marriage was no good, and he was forced to act as he had. My grandmother sided with the wife, but was not about to shun the man
with brain cancer. And in fact he seemed to crave her approval. He'd wave her
down when their paths crossed. She and my grandfather would sometimes arrive
back from town and find ruts mashed into the dirt embankment up
toward their house: tracks from his wheelchair's unsuccessful attempt to reach
their yard in the midst of a muddy summer.
One day, alone at home, she heard a muffled
banging. The man was outside, thumping a wooden post as a doorbell since he
couldn't climb the steps. He wanted to explain himself; he wanted to be
understood.
He would not be. My grandmother is a polite woman and
likes to do what is expected, but it was not in her to offer even the insincerest
feint at absolution. She told me: "I looked him in the eye and all I could
say was, 'Why, Don?'"
"Of course, who am I to judge," she added
with little feeling—meaning not that she in particular would be a hypocrite to
do so, but that no one on this earth rightly could.
4.
There is an author I need to read, but haven't
yet: Marilynne Robinson, who had a profile in the New York Times Magazine a week ago. Of her Midwestern upbringing,
she says:
"There was a very strong tendency among people
to be isolated. More hermits per capita than you'd find in most places. We were
positively encouraged to create for ourselves minds we would want to live
with."
This was never put into so many words for me
growing up, but it is, I find, a core value. Come to us with a problem of the
heart and my grandmother and I may offer some mild counsel, but if you cannot
live comfortably within the mind you have fashioned, we know there is not much
we can do. We have established comprehensive laws on our own islands, and know
that they will not hold up in court on yours.
One could then pull up the bridges, close the
gates. But, aware of my capacity for hardness, for fleeing toward the desert
hermitage at any warm-bodied threat, I try to cultivate a tenderness within me.
I read, of course, endlessly: fiction, essays, pages and pages of people
revealing their lives. (I am for one thing magnetically drawn toward advice columns, this
being the closest thing I have to a guilty genre pleasure.) On certain
attractively lit evenings I go walking and every stranger I pass provokes a surge
of misty fellow-feeling; I grab onto it and let it pull me as far as it will.
And this is perhaps one reason why I choose to live
in cities and wrap myself in the society of the internet—despite on some level preferring
wilderness, silence, and the works of the eloquent dead. I think I am a
broader, more moral person when I am made to bump up against so many other
minds.
For even in the woods, it appears, one will eventually be found and asked
to bear witness to the pain of other lives. It would seem to be the core human
duty; accordingly, I will try to do as my childhood of wilderness training instructs and be prepared.
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31 August 2014
Sweet Nonsense: A Love Story About The Chiffons
Note: I actually wrote this some time ago, as the first of a planned series of girl-group essays. That never materialized (turns out nobody wants an essay series about a fairly niche, long past, deliberately non-boundary-pushing musical moment), so I thought I might as well give this one a home.
In 2000 or 2001, a
boy lay on a bed in a room in his grandmother's house. I put him there. He was
serious, beautiful, and had an obscurely tragic but also beautiful end awaiting
him later in the story (train tracks, autumn, dusk). But first, he turned on
his grandmother's beat-up old radio, tuned permanently to the oldies station,
and heard a song.
He's so fine, oh yeah
Gotta be mine, oh yeah
Sooner or later, oh yeah
I hope it's not later, oh yeah
Like anyone with
ears, the serious boy could not escape the perfection of the song's four-part
harmonies—and that low, simple lead line free of melisma or flourish, the voice
confident not from any sense of bravado but because
its beauty was self-evident and the singer had never learned to doubt it. But he
found them as empty as the nonsense sounds that kicked the whole thing off, doo lang doo lang doo lang; they seemed
to be taking place in another world entirely, cotton-candy-light and devoid of
engagement with the serious truths. Some kind of teenage thing, and although he
was a teenage boy if you wanted to be annoyingly literal about the whole thing,
he was definitely not that kind of
teenage boy (despite being in physical description quite a lot like the
soft-spoken, wavy-haired object of the Chiffons' affections, come to think of
it; we teen girls being predictable, after all). But the 117 seconds of the
song granted him a moment of hazy weightlessness that was the closest he would
come to levity; it could not save him from the train tracks, the autumn, the
dusk.
I wrote this insubstantial
tragic dreamboat into existence around age 15. My grandmother too listened to
the doo-woppier oldies station when she listened to music at all; she could not
brook even jazz, finding it hard to understand why anyone would want to listen
to "a bunch of people playing different songs at once." (My
protagonist would have certainly liked jazz, and ideally been better schooled
in it than I, with my collection in the genre consisting of Bird at the Apollo and a best-of
Thelonious Monk disc.) But I did not discover the song in my grandmother's
house, though I certainly lay back on my bed at home getting lost in those warm
female voices as my protagonist did, especially in moments of soul-flattening
misery. And I must have been less successfully armored with seriousness than
he, because the voices did not just drift pleasantly by but reached into my
chest, and had I needed them to, I was soft enough that they could probably
have saved me.
At that time my
musical diet consisted mainly of punk (preferably political) and riot grrrl and
those two jazz CDs, with a little lesbian folk around the edges. I hadn't heard
"He's So Fine" until my better-rounded best friend and bandmate put
it on one of her enviably eclectic mix tapes. I hadn't heard anything like it
at all before. In the middle of The Clash and the Germs and Parliament
Funkadelic and probably a few joke songs from Sifl and Olly, there opened up
this impossibly brief window of consuming sweetness.
I barely understood
what it was—I may not have even known the name of the group, or when it was
made, at first—but I copied it onto every mix tape I made for several years. It
didn't occur to me that there would be more where that came from. The internet
was not yet an obvious source of music; one didn't necessarily expect that even
current bands would have websites, much less one from 1962. It wasn't until I
got to college that I began to accumulate some context for that luminous
single. Eventually I used some Christmas money to order the remarkable One Kiss Can Lead to Another: Girl Group
Sounds Lost & Found Rhino box set. When it arrived I sat down in my
dorm room and popped the first CD in, and was promptly overwhelmed to the point
of welling eyes and helpless gaping grin. I hadn't been aware that there had
once been all these people dedicated to what seemed the pure pursuit of the
most perfect sonic beauty, weaving the richest-sounding pop arrangements I'd
ever heard (strings, chimes, Latin horns!) around the variously warm, shy,
bratty, bracing voices of very young women.
There is a sense in
which I seem to have aged in reverse between the ages of, say, 14 and 21.
Around the time I heard my first Chiffons song I was beginning to make a
project of not wanting everything I couldn't have. The emotionally elegant
silhouettes who drifted through my early fictions were a little better at it
than I was; they shook off love and family and camaraderie quite lightly, just
the opposite of these singing girls with their two or three ever-present
friends in harmony, their advice-giving parents, their successes in love or
their heartbreaks so gladly shared. Even if I'd had more than the one song, I
wouldn't have been quite ready for their unembarrassed youth.
Instead I formed an
all-girl punk band whose lyrical content comprised half sociopolitical ranting
and half Dadaist goofiness—absolutely no room for love songs or other girly
stuff. We were already not taken seriously as things stood. Not that we should
have been, possessing as little sense of songcraft and basic musicianship as we
did, but it wasn't just that; it was the ostensibly progressive dudes who let
slip that they felt weird about booking more than one female-fronted act on a
bill, it was an older female friend saying that she just didn't like the way
women's voices sounded. And so on.
Girl groups around that time called to mind
Destiny's Child, or the Spice Girls, whom I'd loved along with everyone in
sixth grade.
"They're not
really musicians," my mother's boyfriend explained to me one day. I'd just
gotten a cassingle of "2 Become 1" from a friend for my birthday—my
least favorite of their hits, what with all the uncomfortable sexiness, but I
clutched it proudly as a token of admission to a cultural realm where even the popular
girls hung out. "They don't play any instruments. All they do is dance
around and sing." I think I just nodded. His guitars filled a corner of
our living room and his classic-rock cover band sometimes practiced in our
basement at volumes so eardrum-battering that I escaped to the roof of the
garage. I hated him and would have given up my entire tape collection for him
to teach me how to shred and use what he called the wang bar. Instead he bought
a guitar for my uninterested little sister, which I appropriated the moment she
abandoned it.
This sense of
rock-dude authenticity was just in the air if you saw yourself as someone who
cared about music. So I, too, expressed disdain for women who did nothing but
stand there and sing; at least I wrote songs, and clawed at a few chords
between shouted lyrics. I wasn't good, but I could be real, sort of, and sing
about things that mattered.
I suppose you could
see it as a subconscious counter-rebellion, a few years later, when I sat
rocked open by the voices of an idealized, pastel-toned mainstream girl culture
four decades gone. I was certainly delighted when I learned that authentic
rock-guy George Harrison had unknowingly absorbed "He's So Fine" and
rewritten it as "My Sweet Lord"—and been successfully sued for
plagiarism. (Not that I have anything against George Harrison; the pleasure was
in the principle of the thing.) But in fact the girl-group sound was perhaps
the first body of music I loved that didn't
come packaged with an argument for its worth. It would not help me better
engage with my peers; it would not help me understand the ineffable musical
truths of a Bach or a Beethoven; it was not saying anything of political
importance; it would not connect me to a venerable American tradition. Its
beauty was superfluous in a way that, had it occurred in nature, would have
seemed evidence for the loving generosity of divine creation; you could see why
Phil Spector's phrase "little symphonies for the kids" needn't have
been exactly dismissive. Yes, the songs were there to make money—as the rough
and careless treatment of the Chiffons and so many other girl groups by their
labels would attest—but they were much better than they had to be for
commercial purposes, if never five seconds longer.
For instance, take
Judy Craig's voice shifting from playful to plaintive in the space of two bars,
the backup girls so blocking out the session players' on-the-clock plunking
that it takes me a few listens in a row to even register that they're doing something
back there. How to put it into words, what these inconsequential sounds do to
me? Doo lang, doo lang, doo lang.
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